We all have quirks, things that bother us. Annoyances, pet peeves. They get under our skin. It is important to remember that we don’t need to let these things get under our skin and if we can develop mental and emotional frameworks to overcome them we can excel in moving on with our lives without the downside of it weighing on us mentally.
The top 10 most common pet peeves in the USA can vary from person to person, but here are some generally common ones:
- People talking loudly on their phones in public places.
- People not using their turn signals while driving.
- People interrupting others while they’re speaking.
- People not cleaning up after their pets in public places.
- People chewing loudly or with their mouths open.
- People using their phones during a movie or in a theater.
- People not covering their mouth while coughing or sneezing.
- People not holding the door open for others.
- People driving too slow or too fast in the passing lane.
- People leaving the toilet seat up or not flushing after using the bathroom.
Again, it’s important to note that pet peeves can vary from person to person and are not necessarily representative of everyone in the USA. But these are the top 10 most common. Are you on this list with an annoyance or pet peeve?
10 Mental Hacks For Overcoming Annoyances:
Sure, here are some mental hacks to help get over each of these common pet peeves:
- People talking loudly on their phones in public places: Try to remind yourself that everyone has different ways of communicating and different levels of comfort with public speaking. Consider putting on headphones or finding a quieter place to go if the noise bothers you too much.
- People not using their turn signals while driving: Instead of getting angry or frustrated, try to practice defensive driving and anticipate the actions of other drivers on the road. This can help you stay safe and reduce stress while driving.
- People interrupting others while they’re speaking: Take a deep breath and remind yourself that sometimes people get excited and forget to let others finish their thoughts. Try to calmly assert yourself and politely ask for the chance to finish what you were saying.
- People not cleaning up after their pets in public places: Recognize that not everyone may be aware of the rules or cultural norms regarding pet waste cleanup. Instead of getting upset, consider being proactive and bringing your own waste bags to offer to others who may not have them.
- People chewing loudly or with their mouths open: Try to focus on the positive aspects of the meal or conversation rather than the sound of chewing. You can also try using noise-cancelling headphones or earplugs if the sound bothers you too much.
- People using their phones during a movie or in a theater: Consider reminding yourself that everyone has different levels of attention and focus, and it’s not always a reflection of their respect for the movie or the audience. Try to enjoy the movie despite the distractions, or consider watching movies at home where you have more control over the environment.
- People not covering their mouth while coughing or sneezing: Try to remember that not everyone may have the same level of awareness about health and hygiene practices. If you feel comfortable doing so, politely remind the person to cover their mouth, or simply move away from the area if you can.
- People not holding the door open for others: Instead of feeling upset or slighted, try to remind yourself that the person may not have seen you or may not have been able to hold the door open due to other circumstances. Consider holding the door open for others yourself as an act of kindness and goodwill.
- People driving too slow or too fast in the passing lane: Instead of getting angry or frustrated, try to remain calm and practice defensive driving. Remember that other drivers may have different driving styles or levels of experience, and it’s important to focus on staying safe on the road.
- People leaving the toilet seat up or not flushing after using the bathroom: Try to remind yourself that everyone has different habits and ways of doing things. You can either politely ask the person to be more mindful of leaving the seat down or try to accept the situation and simply put the seat down yourself.
When You Get Annoyed Remember
Being annoyed is often considered a small problem in first world countries, where access to basic necessities like food, water, and shelter is not a significant concern for most people. It’s easy to get caught up in minor inconveniences or irritations, like traffic, slow Wi-Fi, or loud neighbors, and lose sight of the bigger picture. In many third world countries, people face much more pressing and life-threatening issues, such as hunger, lack of clean water, poverty, war, and human trafficking. Women and children in particular are vulnerable to being stolen and sold into sex slavery, a heartbreaking reality that affects millions of people worldwide. It’s important to recognize our privilege and be grateful for what we have, while also advocating for and supporting those who are less fortunate.
An attitude of gratitude goes a long way and as I heard years ago ‘what you appreciate, appreciates!’ so keep that in mind! If you’re grateful, things will get better.